Preparing Yourself for the Passing Away Of Your Spouse

No matter what we do, death is an inevitable truth that every single one of must face at some point in our life. An average person will face the passing away of quite a few loved ones throughout his or her life. A person may lose his friends, relatives and even siblings but the passing away of two people hurts the most; your parents and your spouse.

We would rather not downplay the significance of your spouse passing away just to give you temporary relief. Nor do we want to overwhelm you with emotions. But, the truth is, the passing away of your spouse really is a big incident and you can only start to heal once you accept that fact.

Handling the situation

As with everything else in life, there are a number of steps to be taken before and after a loved one, specially your spouse, passes away. While some steps deal with handling children and relatives, others deal with keeping your mental health in check. Here are a few steps you should follow before your spouse passes away;

• It’s important that you spend maximum time with your spouse. Let them know how much you love and care about them.
• First and foremost, you must try to provide the best care to your spouse. Often, this task will overwhelm you, which is why you should avail hospice care. Most health care insurance providers cover this service.
• If you have any kids, it’s important that you inform them about the situation. Children can handle having to deal with death much better than we think and it’s important that you explain to them what is going to happen to their mother/father and what death is. You don’t have to go into any details and you can keep things simple but you mustn’t lie about anything.
• It is of the utmost importance that you get a will made and get your spouse’s finances in order. 
• Final goodbyes can be extremely sad and emotional but they can bring peace to the person about to die. Once your spouse gets really sick it’s important that you grant them a final goodbye.
• During all this, you must not neglect yourself. You should allow yourself the time and space to feel the emotions and sorrow. It is also important that inform all friends and family and have them over as much as possible.
• And here are some steps you can take after your spouse passes away;
• If your spouse is getting a burial, you will have to avail funeral services. The service will help you in getting the right coffin and they will also get you in touch with their gravestone maker so that you can get a gravestone made that is truly worthy of your loved one.
• You can get in touch with a funeral service before your spouse passes away but you must not share any details with them. Discuss such matters only if they initiate the conversation.
• It is of paramount importance that you realize you will need time and maybe even someone’s help in healing.
• It is also important that you don’t neglect yourself and children (or pets) during such a difficult time.

The journey to healing is yours and yours alone. Only you can get yourself to the destination.